Comments for Midlife Heart http://www.midlifeheart.com LEARNING TO MOVE FORWARD WITH YOUR HEART Mon, 12 Dec 2011 06:07:26 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 Comment on Why Does It Have to be So Difficult? by sheila http://www.midlifeheart.com/28/why-does-it-have-to-be-so-difficult/comment-page-1/#comment-39 sheila Mon, 12 Dec 2011 06:07:26 +0000 http://www.midlifeheart.com/blog/?p=9#comment-39 AFter trying and trying and maybe not doing the right thing, i havent given up yet,..It is truly difficult to date nowadays, especially long distance dating/romance.Once i had this experience and thought that everything is oing smoothly and this is it, only to find out it is a short lived romance, fairy tale.. when I woke up i knew it wasnt a dream, it really happened,and i was hurt more than i can take, and took me time to recover.. Yes,It is a complicated thing now, times have made it that way..but i believe there are still good men who are willing to take time to know a person seriously. AFter trying and trying and maybe not doing the right thing, i havent given up yet,..It is truly difficult to date nowadays, especially long distance dating/romance.Once i had this experience and thought that everything is oing smoothly and this is it, only to find out it is a short lived romance, fairy tale.. when I woke up i knew it wasnt a dream, it really happened,and i was hurt more than i can take, and took me time to recover.. Yes,It is a complicated thing now, times have made it that way..but i believe there are still good men who are willing to take time to know a person seriously.

]]> Comment on A Passing… by Christina Bencomo http://www.midlifeheart.com/58/a-passing/comment-page-1/#comment-37 Christina Bencomo Wed, 26 Oct 2011 07:04:05 +0000 http://www.midlifeheart.com/blog/?p=58#comment-37 Les Paul was amazing, to be playing at 91yrs of age. Once a musician, always a musician. He sure left his mark in Music History. Good for him ... Les Paul was amazing, to be playing at 91yrs of age. Once a musician, always a musician. He sure left his mark in Music History. Good for him …

]]> Comment on A Passing… by Christina Bencomo http://www.midlifeheart.com/58/a-passing/comment-page-1/#comment-36 Christina Bencomo Wed, 26 Oct 2011 07:00:27 +0000 http://www.midlifeheart.com/blog/?p=58#comment-36 Wow, it sure brought back memories, the last gift I got my ex-husband was a Les Paul, "Black Beauty", I believe was the name of it. Back in the mid-70's. He also got a Marshall amp. and his wow, wow pedal. That's all he wanted. Unfortunatly, he held the guitar, more than me :( But as much as I enjoy music, that's what pretty much ended our marriage. And of course other issues, but it's all over 37yrs. ago. But I always remember the song, by Dave Mason, "We just disagree". I honestly felt that, at the time, as now, "Nobody's right or wrong, We just disagree." So we went our separate ways. Thanks for recapturing a memory... Wow, it sure brought back memories, the last gift I got my ex-husband was a Les Paul, “Black Beauty”, I believe was the name of it. Back in the mid-70′s. He also got a Marshall amp. and his wow, wow pedal. That’s all he wanted. Unfortunatly, he held the guitar, more than me :( But as much as I enjoy music, that’s what pretty much ended our marriage. And of course other issues, but it’s all over 37yrs. ago. But I always remember the song, by Dave Mason, “We just disagree”. I honestly felt that, at the time, as now, “Nobody’s right or wrong, We just disagree.” So we went our separate ways.

Thanks for recapturing a memory…

]]> Comment on Are We Demanding Too Much From Our Relationships? by JimRogers http://www.midlifeheart.com/45/are-we-demanding-too-much-from-our-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-35 JimRogers Wed, 12 Oct 2011 17:51:26 +0000 http://www.midlifeheart.com/blog/?p=45#comment-35 The biggest and most important thing to realize is that you're best off not trying to second guess someone who is apparently being honest with you. If your needs are greater than hers, and she says that she can take it or leave it, then you're best to move on. Realize that there are more than enough who are appropriate for you 'out there' and that if you take the time to see who you are as a man, you'll begin to understand that you're worth finding someone who won't just 'take it or leave it' but who will show you how much you mean to them and meet your own specific needs in relationship. The biggest and most important thing to realize is that you’re best off not trying to second guess someone who is apparently being honest with you. If your needs are greater than hers, and she says that she can take it or leave it, then you’re best to move on. Realize that there are more than enough who are appropriate for you ‘out there’ and that if you take the time to see who you are as a man, you’ll begin to understand that you’re worth finding someone who won’t just ‘take it or leave it’ but who will show you how much you mean to them and meet your own specific needs in relationship.

]]> Comment on Are We Demanding Too Much From Our Relationships? by d http://www.midlifeheart.com/45/are-we-demanding-too-much-from-our-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-34 d Tue, 11 Oct 2011 20:06:35 +0000 http://www.midlifeheart.com/blog/?p=45#comment-34 how odd - I'm in a very similiar spot - in a relationship with someone different on so many ways - as you say - and yet it feels nice being together though my need appears greater than hers. she says she can take or leave it. Is she being honest ?? how odd – I’m in a very similiar spot – in a relationship with someone different on so many ways – as you say – and yet it feels nice being together though my need appears greater than hers. she says she can take or leave it. Is she being honest ??

]]> Comment on A Lesson Learned… The Hard Way. by Denise http://www.midlifeheart.com/74/a-lesson-learned-the-hard-way/comment-page-1/#comment-32 Denise Fri, 10 Jun 2011 17:19:48 +0000 http://www.midlifeheart.com/blog/?p=74#comment-32 Interesting, I had a similar experience. I dated a young man from 16-22, he was 5 years older than me. We were engaged to be married, but I broke it off and we went our separate ways. I often thought about reaching out to him to get together to reminisce, after all, I 'grew up' with him. There were so many experiences only he and I had, he was a witness to a good portion of my life. I never acted on what I know I could make happen. About 5 years ago, I received a call that he was killed in a motorcycle accident. I felt like a piece of me was gone as well, sad that my witness was no more, and disappointed with myself for not reaching out to him to reconnect. Lesson learned :) Interesting, I had a similar experience. I dated a young man from 16-22, he was 5 years older than me. We were engaged to be married, but I broke it off and we went our separate ways. I often thought about reaching out to him to get together to reminisce, after all, I ‘grew up’ with him. There were so many experiences only he and I had, he was a witness to a good portion of my life. I never acted on what I know I could make happen.

About 5 years ago, I received a call that he was killed in a motorcycle accident. I felt like a piece of me was gone as well, sad that my witness was no more, and disappointed with myself for not reaching out to him to reconnect. Lesson learned :)

]]> Comment on A Lesson Learned… The Hard Way. by Dolby http://www.midlifeheart.com/74/a-lesson-learned-the-hard-way/comment-page-1/#comment-31 Dolby Thu, 21 Apr 2011 23:58:07 +0000 http://www.midlifeheart.com/blog/?p=74#comment-31 I too think often about when we break it off with people that we once loved and shared a life with, why we feel so uncomfortable just being friends. I believe now it is a wisdom and an understanding of impermanance in life that we just don't think about to much. Nothing, no-thing remains the same, once we accept that we can accept and understand why people leave us or we leave them. The gift is being able to part and remain in gratitude for what each brought to the relationship. When we get caught up in the 'blame and shame game' it is hard to re-member all that love and shared moments that brought us so many emotions. Why we cared and why we think we still don't care. I am not sure if there is such a thing as a good close or not, but what I do know we definately have a lot to learn about ourselves (self-love), that appreciation and acceptance of who we are and how we relate to relationships is the growth of our soul and compassion. I think if we all had that knowing, then leaving-moving on would not be so painful, we would just accept it as another step in moving forward in our lives. All relationships are mirrors, not the kind you look in and see how you look today, but the emotional mirror that if we don't 'react' to it, we can see clearly who we are in that moment, with who they are. Our vibrations are always changing as relationships do. We have been downloaded with so many rules of how relationships be that we are attached to them in sometimes unhealthy ways. Closure is just the sun going down, with a new day of dawning. Be YOU in all moments, accept all of your sum parts that create YOU. When things fall apart and they will, you will be better equipt to understand and have compassion for YOU and the other(s). We don't always get to know the 'Why', situations are simply 'just are.' OM Shanti ~ Dolby You are important. Your actions matter. Your thoughts create. Your presence changes everything. I too think often about when we break it off with people that we once loved and shared a life with, why we feel so uncomfortable just being friends. I believe now it is a wisdom and an understanding of impermanance in life that we just don’t think about to much. Nothing, no-thing remains the same, once we accept that we can accept and understand why people leave us or we leave them. The gift is being able to part and remain in gratitude for what each brought to the relationship. When we get caught up in the ‘blame and shame game’ it is hard to re-member all that love and shared moments that brought us so many emotions. Why we cared and why we think we still don’t care.
I am not sure if there is such a thing as a good close or not, but what I do know we definately have a lot to learn about ourselves (self-love), that appreciation and acceptance of who we are and how we relate to relationships is the growth of our soul and compassion. I think if we all had that knowing, then leaving-moving on would not be so painful, we would just accept it as another step in moving forward in our lives. All relationships are mirrors, not the kind you look in and see how you look today, but the emotional mirror that if we don’t ‘react’ to it, we can see clearly who we are in that moment, with who they are. Our vibrations are always changing as relationships do. We have been downloaded with so many rules of how relationships be that we are attached to them in sometimes unhealthy ways. Closure is just the sun going down, with a new day of dawning. Be YOU in all moments, accept all of your sum parts that create YOU. When things fall apart and they will, you will be better equipt to understand and have compassion for YOU and the other(s). We don’t always get to know the ‘Why’, situations are simply ‘just are.’

OM Shanti ~ Dolby
You are important.
Your actions matter.
Your thoughts create.
Your presence changes everything.

]]> Comment on There Are No Good Ones Left by Lindaglo http://www.midlifeheart.com/17/there-are-no-good-ones-left/comment-page-1/#comment-30 Lindaglo Sun, 13 Feb 2011 02:43:46 +0000 http://www.midlifeheart.com/blog/?p=17#comment-30 I think there are lots of good ones left, its just that the game has changed drastically. People are more disconnected today and life just rushes by too fast. I've been told I am attractive and charming and yet I don't seem to connect with men I meet who are available. I connect with men who are unavailable. Why is this so? Lately I'm thinking deep down I have some kind of commitment phobia. My marriage ended terribly and my father was non existent emotionally, so I really don't have a good handle on how to proceed to connect with a good companioni. However, I have a lot of hope and in the meantime, I am busy with friends and family, volunteer, exercise and just enjoy meeting new people. I think there are lots of good ones left, its just that the game has changed drastically. People are more disconnected today and life just rushes by too fast. I’ve been told I am attractive and charming and yet I don’t seem to connect with men I meet who are available. I connect with men who are unavailable. Why is this so? Lately I’m thinking deep down I have some kind of commitment phobia. My marriage ended terribly and my father was non existent emotionally, so I really don’t have a good handle on how to proceed to connect with a good companioni. However, I have a lot of hope and in the meantime, I am busy with friends and family, volunteer, exercise and just enjoy meeting new people.

]]> Comment on What To Do About Loneliness by Lindaglo http://www.midlifeheart.com/43/what-to-do-about-loneliness/comment-page-1/#comment-29 Lindaglo Sun, 13 Feb 2011 02:36:38 +0000 http://www.midlifeheart.com/blog/?p=43#comment-29 I know the lonely feeling will pass. I was lonlier in my marriage than I am alone. I still have hopes for meeting a nice companions, but I don't obsess about it. I've asked God to give me peace in my heart if I am to be without a partner for the immediate future. I am grateful for my children, family and friends and remind myself of that when the lonliness hits me. I know the lonely feeling will pass. I was lonlier in my marriage than I am alone. I still have hopes for meeting a nice companions, but I don’t obsess about it. I’ve asked God to give me peace in my heart if I am to be without a partner for the immediate future. I am grateful for my children, family and friends and remind myself of that when the lonliness hits me.

]]> Comment on What Is It About You That Attracts Me? by Sandee http://www.midlifeheart.com/34/what-about-you-is-attracting-me/comment-page-1/#comment-28 Sandee Thu, 02 Dec 2010 03:49:30 +0000 http://www.midlifeheart.com/blog/?p=34#comment-28 I think that what attracts us to one person versus another changes as we become more mature. I know I personally don't put a lot of value in another person's looks. I have learned that as trust, intimacy, and the first steps of the bond we will have forever grows stronger, the person becomes more attractive everyday. On the other hand, if some is ugly on the inside it will show on the outside and it's not easy to hide it. The old phrase "beauty is in the eyes of the beholder" could not be more true as we grow into adults. I think that what attracts us to one person versus another changes as we become more mature. I know I personally don’t put a lot of value in another person’s looks. I have learned that as trust, intimacy, and the first steps of the bond we will have forever grows stronger, the person becomes more attractive everyday. On the other hand, if some is ugly on the inside it will show on the outside and it’s not easy to hide it. The old phrase “beauty is in the eyes of the beholder” could not be more true as we grow into adults.

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