So many of us at this stage of life are looking for love. Yet, when it comes down to it, I’m curious if we’re willing to give to another what we ask for ourselves?
So why am I asking this question? In the realm of dating, in many profiles on dating sites, so many say that they’re looking for unconditional love from another. However, from my own experience, it seems more like many are just using this as a buzzword, or a comforting ‘warm and fuzzy’ notion without understanding what it is that they ask for.
First of all, if you love someone unconditionally, there is no such thing as a ‘deal breaker’ because ones love is never tied to a condition, while the term ‘deal breaker’ connotes love tied to a set of conditions.
Yet, in light of the above, I wonder if those who are looking for someone to love them unconditionally are simply looking for someone who doesn’t challenge them to grow and change for the better? Taking that further, I also wonder if those who seek unconditional love are willing to extend the same to another? Many who want to be loved unconditionally have turned that into a one way street… expecting something they aren’t equipped (or willing) to deliver.
So what is unconditional love? Simply speaking, unconditional love is love without conditions… none whatsoever!! If your partner suddenly picks up smoking, you’re simply going to love them, talk with them about this sudden change, but there will be no judgment or backing away from them. Similarly, if your partner develops a thyroid problem and suddenly gains 100 pounds, you’ll still love them just the same. While you may work to help them seek a solution, you may not; simply allowing them to be who they are, for love without conditions is not going to love someone less because they’ve exhibited an external change… or an internal change. Love without conditions is pure. Yet, love without conditions is impossible for humans to show in its absoluteness.
Whatever the case, whatever it is that you ask from someone, you are best served to be ready, willing and able to extend to them as well.
Take care of your heart.
EXCELLENT!
This is the first chance I’ve had to peruse your site, Jim, and the resonance is impressive.
I look forward to sharing “Meaning of Life” discussions, or ponderings, with you…back to your site.
More later, and still,
With Interest,
Sherry