One of the most difficult aspects of being human, and single, is loneliness. Without human interaction and touch, most of us, in time, would go stir crazy. Loneliness is something that we, as humans, are confronted by throughout life. As most of us know, to experience consistent loneliness while being part of a couple is the worst form of loneliness ever known.
So my question to all of you is, how do you deal with loneliness when it appears in your life? I know what I do, what do YOU do??
Let’s see. I try to plan ahead for times that I know I will probably be the most lonely, like weekends, holidays and long winter nights. First, I do some inner talk in comforting myself with, “this is just a season,” or “this too will pass,” and tell myself that I’m an OK person, there’s a lot of people out there who love me, I have meaning and purpose in life and so forth. I have even told myself that I’m not afraid of the “Lonely Monster.”
But, I also found it helps to plan ahead knowing I may be lonely. So that would be getting a special movie, fun activity, or having a mental list of who I might call to connect with. I also journal my feelings.
I do actually have an intimate relationship with God, so this helps…He listens to all my whining about being lonely.
Thanks for the opportunity to share. This helps me feel less lonely!
~ Nora
Lonliness has acttually been a blessing for me as so to teach me how to be more gratefull. I have also learned to appreciate the beauty of nature on a deeper level, and I have healed.
I know the lonely feeling will pass. I was lonlier in my marriage than I am alone. I still have hopes for meeting a nice companions, but I don’t obsess about it. I’ve asked God to give me peace in my heart if I am to be without a partner for the immediate future. I am grateful for my children, family and friends and remind myself of that when the lonliness hits me.