Most every dating site on the Internet seems to have three basic groups of people that you’ll most often meet. First, there are those who knowingly misrepresent themselves (those who say what they think you want to hear); second, those who unknowingly misrepresent themselves (those who think they know who they are, but really don’t); and third, those who truly know themselves (those who have taken the time to learn and apply the lessons that life has brought their way).
While the majority of people you find on dating websites tend to be from the first two groups of people, it’s really your job to find those who are from the third group. While it may seem to be an impossible task at times, it’s really not at all. The most important task that you can do for yourself is to understand who you are and from that place of understanding look for those qualities and attributes that make up the kind of person you want to meet. The old saying, ‘be the kind of person you’d like to find’, is incredibly true.
I, too, have become a ‘seasoned’ midlife dater. So many mistakes and experiences… many comical … and definitely multiple encounters with people who fall within the first two groups of internet dating portrayers! I look forward to reading your book not only because you are a friend, but because I appreciate and value your wisdom, knowledge, and energy.
Mid Life dating sounds scary all in itself but my walk through the barrage of dating sites made scary turn comical. I never had really begun to catorgorize the names in the on line dating pool but thinking back there were definately catorgories of which I seemed to have been attracting mostly number ones—so that is scary. I did more writing than actual meeting out of fear I presume. I met a great looking gay guy, a super mellow down to earth madman with a matching temper, an occasional drinker that would be out of rehab soon and the worst was a guy that loves kids and camping that was on the sex offender registry. Now that’s a comical side to a dating site. The kewl side is I have two friends that have been friends for years—they were on a dating site—we didn’t make good dates but we made good friends.
Do we attract what we think about? I think we do. I think in my case I felt silly being in mid life and not being part of the relationship of my dreams. I was fearful of the guys I might meet on a dating site and that is almost exactly what I attracted—what I feared—because I thought about it alot. Trinity
This excerpt from the book has me intrigued and also, a little bit hopeful that maybe, just maybe, there are genuine people on the dating sites. Would love to know how to recognize them, as the trial and error of the search is more error than success.
I will definitely buy your book when it comes out!
Take care,
Robin