I’m very sure that every one of you, at one time or another, have said this very thing to yourself… there just aren’t any good ones left out there. I know that I’ve said that on more than one occasion. However, I caught myself in the middle of saying that one day and then I realized that I was, in a sense, creating my own dating reality by holding that thought in my mind.
While some of you more than likely have come to the same conclusions, not all of you have. I’d like to know what all of you think about this. Do we actually create our own dating reality or do we simply make a statement based on our observations? I use to think it was the latter, but now I’m beginning to realize that, at least for me, it’s a LOT more of the former.
What do the rest of you think??
True, we create our own aura and radiate a certain energy when we assume a perception that then becomes our reality. On a more concrete level, I believe that as we become more seasoned daters, our list of qualifiers and desirable traits becomes longer and longer… which further alienates us from the potential for a fantastic relationship. What has helped me is to get back to basics, what REALLY matters.
I think there are lots of good ones left, its just that the game has changed drastically. People are more disconnected today and life just rushes by too fast. I’ve been told I am attractive and charming and yet I don’t seem to connect with men I meet who are available. I connect with men who are unavailable. Why is this so? Lately I’m thinking deep down I have some kind of commitment phobia. My marriage ended terribly and my father was non existent emotionally, so I really don’t have a good handle on how to proceed to connect with a good companioni. However, I have a lot of hope and in the meantime, I am busy with friends and family, volunteer, exercise and just enjoy meeting new people.